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What is a true friend?

Kenneth | April 3rd, 2008 at 4:14 pm

On March 28, I (Sharon Ryan, creator of THE QUESTION) had a great time philosophizing with Ms. Ami Measer?s 9th grade English classes at Lancaster High School, in Lancaster, NY. (Lancaster is near Buffalo.) We discussed the following list of questions, and the class is going to blog in and share their ideas. Please share your own ideas in the blog!

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What is a true friend?

How do you know whether a person is a true friend?

What duties and responsibilities do we have to our friends?

Think about your closest friends. Why are they your friends?

What is it that you like and appreciate about them?

Would a true friend ask you to do something that would be harmful to you or to other people? If so, under what circumstances could this occur? If not, why not?

Is loyalty required for friendship?

Is loyalty toward a friend always a good thing?

If you could choose between having a lot of casual and fun pals and one or two true friends, which would you pick? Why?

What is the difference between love and friendship?

Could you be in love with someone who is not a true friend?

How important is friendship for happiness?

1 Mrs. Measer | Apr 8 at 7:31 am Reply to comment

Friendship is a tricky thing. Is it better to have one or two close friends or a bunch of “friends” that you go to for different things. As I get older and wiser and have went through a handful of what I would have called “true friends” I realize that what I have believed was true – that the people in our lives are with us for however short or long a time to teach us something. Sometimes that lesson is about something in particular and sometimes that lesson is that we need to be more cautious about who we trust. I do feel that we need those lessons and any amount of time and energy that we spent on nurturing those relationships was not a waste of time as long as we learned a lesson in the process.

2 sean p.6 | Apr 10 at 11:25 am Reply to comment

a true friend is some one ypu can hang out with or talk with some one if you need advice or when you need someone to stick up for you.but a good friend will not pressure you to do bad things like drugs.

3 Jake p.6 | Apr 10 at 11:34 am Reply to comment

what is a true friend that is the true question, a true friend is someone that you can turn to and trust them with personal information that you feel that they can keep between just the two of them. knowing that a friend of yours is a true friend is sometimes a truely difficult task to handle, mainly because you don’t know if your freind feel the same and can trust you with their words. the importance of happiness in friendship is key to having good friends. first no one wants a friend who is nasty to them and stabs them in the back when they are not around, also happiness is important because you can put more trust in your friends if you have found happiness in your friendships.

4 Kevin Z. | Apr 8 at 11:51 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is a tricky thing to describe since, I believe, everyone has a different opinion. I must say through my understanding and personal experiences of friendship, a true and best friend can be related to the life partner that’s perfect in every way except that they are of the same gender. This is the only way I can describe my own relationship but I am sure it is not the most common. True friendship does not require a sexual relationship or power struggles between genders; it transcends love by nullifying the feeling of jealousy or despair (especially during times of being apart). I might even say it’s still love but one that has already fought the battles of trust and won. This may be a rare case since I’ve had a best friend from 2nd grade to college but nonetheless, it’s how I see a completely true friendship.

5 Derrick Carr | Apr 9 at 8:54 pm Reply to comment

I think true friendship is hard to find, and when it is found you definatley should hang on to it.True friends are the ones you can trust and you can count on.Also you need someone who you can joke with and they can also keep you focused.And if any problems happen with them they wont rat you out or drag you down with them.Friends can be important and even sometimes, they inspire people to carry on.

6 Gabriella | Apr 10 at 9:14 am Reply to comment

Friendship is mostly very important to people. It is better to have more than one close friend, because if you need advise or need help with a problem, maybe one of your close friends has a good idea but maybe the other one has a different one that you like better. haveing many friends that can help you with problems that you need help on can be reali good. plus having many friends makes you happy, knowing theres always some one right by your side to help you through anything that coms your way. stuck in a problem you need help on ask a friend to help you, and see what there advise is.

7 jessica | Apr 10 at 9:14 am Reply to comment

a true friend is a person that you can totaly be yourself around. a person that understands you and isn’t afraid to tell you what they think about certain things, because they tell you what they really mean and not things that are just supposed to make you feel better. a true friend is someone that soaks up you tears, and always has your back. they are always there for you no matter what, and can make you smile when your down. you know that you have a true friend, when you move 500 miles away from them, and tehy still do everything they can to keep the relationship strong. its a person that you can turn to and justspill your guts to them, and know that they won’t ever judge you. i dont think that ‘clicks’ are true friends, because they are only really your friend since your popular, and hanging out with you will make them popular as well. i know that i definatley have a true friend.

8 Corey Park period: 3 | Apr 10 at 9:14 am Reply to comment

The meaning of a true friend(s) is that you can trust them and they can tust you as well. What i consider a true friend is someone who you know you can trust that person. I have a true friend(s) that i know i can trust with just about everything that i tell him/her. One thing that i have to say is finding that one true friend is one in a million chance but you know you will find that one!!!!!

9 Nick Nagowski | Apr 10 at 9:14 am Reply to comment

When you talk about a true friend, they have many qualties to them. Some of the qualties are that they are loyal to you, they have your back, he or she wont be mean or cruel to you. When a true friend is being loyal to you they will tell you things that you might not want to hear. They will have your back when times get rough and when there are issues you cant solve yourself. When you have a true friend that you want to keep you wouldnt want them putting you down. You would want them putting you up and making you feel good. I have learned that you wont find many true friends in your life so its best to demonstrate the qualties of a true friend back to them. I also have learned that when you make a mistake that its important to make up the fight or arguement or things will only get worse.

10 rachel | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who you can go to for anything. They are someone who you can trust with all of your secrets. A true friend is someone why cares about you and isnt afraid to tell you something you dont want to hear. Friends should be there for you whenever you need them to be. true friends can aways make you feel better when you are sad. true friends are people who will stand by you not matter what kind of ordeal you are in because they want you tobve safe and they want to help you. Friends are part of what makes you you. they are a part of you that will stay with you forever. Friendship is something that is meaningful and something that you should have for as long as you shall live.Friends may not always agree with you but they will always be there when you need a shoulder to lean on.

11 Sam | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

You can tell if someone is a true friend because a friend is someone who wil b al nice to u but behind ur back might say stuff. A true friend is someone who has ur back and doesnt betraid you. You can also tel because a friend can be good to you at sum points then be rude to you but a true friend is there for you during the bad and good times. A true friend is someone you can always come to for advise or just to talk to. Thats how you can tell if you have a true friend.

12 shannon | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who is always there for you no matter what happens. Even if you make a mistake or screw up, they are there to help you. A true friend knows you very well. When you are with them, you should always be laughing and having a good time. When you are getting in trouble, a true friend is usually there right along with you, they stick with you through good times and bad. They also cover for you when needed, and you cover for them. A true friend would never go behind your back or ditch you for someone. You should always be able to trust your true friend with all your secrets and they should be able to trust you. When they know you have a problem, they should know wether to get help from an adult or not.
a True friend should have some simular qualities and some different ones. A true friend should be loyal, trustworthy, responsible, and positive. A true friend should be there for you for your whole entire life.

13 CJ p.3 | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

A true friend has to be trustworthy, caring and loyal. a True friend can be trusted with any secret. A true friend never pushes you to do something that you don’t want to do. But then there comes the fact that a friend, even a true friend, shouldn’t be too loyal. Too much loyalty can lead to bad decisions that the person would regret making later. You don’t need friends to be happy but in my expirence people that have good friends tend to be happier then those that don’t.

14 jamison | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

a true friend is someone that is always going to be there foryouevenifyour doing astupid idea they should be the one standing right next to you and doing it also.you should be able to tell true friend anything and you should be able to trust them not to tell anyone ifyou dont want it to be told. a true friend is alson someone who gives you good advice on any topic that is neede.a true frind should be like a brother/sister to you. you should also have some of the best times of your life with that friend. im grateful that i have a best friend and when ever were together its always the best times of our lives even if its just sitting at my kitchen table.

15 Ben Sinski | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

Loyality isnt always reguired in a friendship. There are certain situations that you dont need to be loyal. For example if you know that your friend is cheatring on your other friend do you tell your other friend. Some people would say yes and others would say no. I believe that it depends on the mood that the person is in. If they’re happy then you dont tell him or her. If they’re already sad then I think its okay to tell him or her. They’re some situations that loyality is required for example if your friend did something wrong then you would tell the your friend just to let him or her know.

16 Kayla Grazen | Apr 24 at 7:34 pm Reply to comment

True. If your friend is fine and happy, why ruin the day ? :]

17 Justin Ernst | Apr 10 at 9:15 am Reply to comment

A true friend is always with and guide you to the right choices. A friend is always by your side. If a friend helps you with your choices, and is always there for you, then they are a true friend. If your friend makes you do things that you do not want to do, then they are not a true frien. We are responsible for guiding our friend to the right decisions. A true friend would never ask you to do something harmful to you or other people. If they did then they are not your true friend.

18 Daniel | Apr 10 at 9:16 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a person who you can trust and can tell any thing to them.they will never tell asecret to any one at all.I Have a True friend who i can tell some thing and thay wont say any thing abut it.true friends will help you with some thing but if its bad they will not help.

19 Drew Ulbrich | Apr 10 at 9:16 am Reply to comment

A true friend is some one who is very close to you. They are always there for you no matter what happens. When you are sad they try and cheer you up. They will do anything to make you happy. A true friend is some one that you can trust with everything including personal things. A true firend does not talk about you behinnd your back or tell some one a personal secert of you. A true friend will stick up for you. You will not find many true friends so when you do make sure that you hold on to them. A true friend is a very good thing to have. They always make you feel happy and you are always in a good mood. True friends dont blow you off to go hang with some one else either. If you have a true friend they will keep the plans that they mad with you. True friends are the best

20 jordan | Apr 10 at 9:16 am Reply to comment

a true friend is a person that will help you no matter what happens to you or just plain be there for you when you need a hand for help.you will know a true friend and how you know when they are being the friend that is always there for you when you need them the most and also you can nver apreshate a friend untill you lose that specail friend.which can mack think of all of the good times you have had toghether like when you where fishing or any thing.i appreciat all of the loyalty that you can have.no ithink if they are a true friend they will never tell you to do something harmfull and thats not a true friend

21 Sam period:3 | Apr 10 at 9:17 am Reply to comment

a true friend is someone that is always there for you. a true friend wouldnt ditch you or be mean to you.a true friend to me would have to be honest, funny, and fun to be around, and always there for you. a tru friend wouldnt go against you or talk abot you behind your back. some people would rather have alot of friends rather then only a few true/best friends. i would rather have a few really good/best friends and then other friends that are cool to hangout with, i would rather be closer with my few really good friends then try to be really good friends with alot of my friends. my bestfriends are my bestfreinds because there nice,honest, and upfront. if someone talks about you or keeps something from you is not a true friend because theyre lyeing and not letting you no something important thats going on. sometimes peopel think they have “true friends” when really they turn out to be back stabbers and not friends at all. a true friend would always be there for you, doing what your doing with you. some people would rather have their friend do something and no them but a good friend would be doing it to. if i was to get in trouble i would want to be in trouble with my good friend. “true friends are hard to find, but even haarder to hold onto.”- unknown.

22 sarah | Apr 10 at 9:17 am Reply to comment

A true friend to me, is someone who will always stand by you no matter what, through thick and thin. I believe that a true friend will always be there for you, he or she will value your friendship. I believe a true friend is trustworthy and willing to handle anything that comes your way. Someone who will make a difference in your life, and teach you a lesson. Although there are “fake” friends in this world, they also help you grow stronger, and become more focused on who you really want to be friends with. It’s a person who will lend you a helping hand, someone that always listens to you, someone that is open and honest. I wouldn’t want a “fake” friend. Even if i had just one true best friend, i’d be happy. I feel the need to express the value of friendship. I value my friendships more then anything in this world, besides schooling and family. I think friendships are a very important thing to have in life. I belive we need them to learn and grow, to teach and to be taught.

23 Don Period 3 | Apr 10 at 9:18 am Reply to comment

Friendship is a special bond between two people. A friend is someone that will always stick up for you, and always have your back. Friends help each other through hard times. You need friends in your life, because when a relative dies, or you just want to vent the everyday stress, friends help you. If you didnt have friends, you wouldnt be social, and you wouldnt have people to get you through life. You only get a handfull of true friends throughout your life. Be careful which ones you choose. Some people just want you for your money, and some are TRUE friends.

24 Josh P. 3 | Apr 10 at 9:18 am Reply to comment

friendship is something that everybody needs. It is key to how somebody krows up. a ture friend is somebody that is always there for you even when you need them the most. you can trust a true friend with anything. and they can trust you too. a true friend will do anything with you. even if it is completely stupid. everybody needs a ture friend. to have friendship, loyalty is key. your not gonna want to be friends with somebody that turns on you every single week. you wouldnt like it. loyalty toward a friens is always a good thing. especially if they are your true friends. if they are loyal to you then you should be loyal to them. there is a difference between love and frienship. if you love somebody you want to be with them forever and you never want to lose them. if you lose a friend, it hurts, but it would hurt more if you lost the person that you love. frienship is very important for happiness. everybody should have a true friend.

25 Bobby p.3 | Apr 10 at 9:19 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a person that you spend a lot of time with and will always have your back in a situation that you don’t like. A true friend is hard to find but i think that everybody finds one in their life. They will have things in common with you and like to do the same things that you do. A true friend is someone who will get in trouble with you by doing something really stupid that nobody else would think of. If you don’t have friendship in your life, it will be very boring for you and you may get depressed.A true friend will never blow you in on something to get you in trouble, and they will also be with you if you have a problem or are sad from a death in the family or something like that.

26 Jon p.3 | Apr 10 at 9:20 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who is there for you. They can help you when you need it, and you can help you when they need it. There are certain times when you can tell if someone is a true friend. Times that you are in a really tight spot, or if you are going through hard times. Some people that you thought were your very good friends, may show you otherwise, or some people that you’re friends with, but you don’t think that they are a “true friend”, may show otherwise. To be a true friend, you need to be loyal, you need to help them when they need it, you need to be there for them, especially in their times of need. Loyalty to a friend is very important, but not in certain times. There may be times when your friend is going to do something stupid and you need to point it out to them. They may listen, or they may not. If it is something dangerous, life threatening, or against the law, you need to try to show them the error of their ways, but if they don’t listen, you need to make sure that you are safe, and aren’t to get arrested of something stupid like that. I do not believe that you can be truly happy without true freinds in life.

27 Ashley Per.3 | Apr 10 at 9:20 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who cares about you and listens to what you have to say. Another thing is that they are always there for you no matter what happens to you and always have your back. It is always nice to have one or two true friends that you can trust and know that they’ll help. Another thing about a true friend that is nice is they dont lie to you and they tell you whats going on so you know what to look after. Its just really nice to know that you can trust someone and know that they are truly your friend.

28 Steven,period 3 | Apr 10 at 9:21 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a person who you can go to when you have a problem and they understand you and care about you. You can tell that a person is really your friend if they are there for you even if your mad at them or if there mad at you. Our responsibilties we have towards ower friends are to ber loyal and respect one another. The people that im close friends with are my bestfriends because we may have been thru alot together if there was ever a problem they were there for yoyu or you grew up with them. The things i like about my friends are they help me out with problems and stuff like that

29 conner p.3 | Apr 10 at 9:21 am Reply to comment

Its a good idea to have many true friends because if you get in a fight with one then you have other people to count on. There ar some people that might call them selfs true friends but when you really need them they arent there. they ditch you and talk behind your back always ask you for money, they just use you. Thats when having more than one true friend can really help.

30 Zachery Grant period 3 | Apr 10 at 9:27 am Reply to comment

A true friend is somebody that always has your back in situations. They also will help you get through tough times, be loyal, and trust worthy. What makes a friend a true friend is they try to give you advice about problems that you cant figure out. Some duties and responsibilities you have to your friends are that you always stick with them through the good or bad times and you never turn on them and stab them in the back. If I could choose between having alot of casual and fun pals and one or two true friends, I would pick one or two true friends.

31 James P.4 | Apr 10 at 9:57 am Reply to comment

a true freind is anyone that will baxk you up on anything and also, the will always be there for you anywere anytime. you know when a person is a true freind when they
aree freinds with you untill forever, no mood changes. a good freind would not make you do anything you dont wanna do. the difference between love and frendship is love is a deeop conection of self sacrafice. love needs freindship but frendship dosent need love. you cannot be happy without freindship.

32 Jess, Period 4 | Apr 10 at 9:57 am Reply to comment

A true friend is that person who you can trust with your life. That person is speical to you, and you would be devastated if anything ever happend to them. True friends help you get through bad times, and they almost always say the right thing. You should have more than one true friend, because if your true friend cannot hang out with you Friday night, you are stuck home, bored and alone. It is important to have many true friends so you can get all different opinions on issues you might have, from other perspectives. True friends are friends you know you will have for a long time, and will not ever stab you in the back.

33 Kyle E Period 4 | Apr 10 at 9:57 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that will help you in any situation. You can also relate to a true friend better than anyone. A true friend will always be loyal and trustworthy and won’t stab you in the back. A true friend is also someone you can go to when you have a problem. They care about you and what you have to say. a true friend is someone you spend a lot of time with and care about.

34 Mike p4 | Apr 10 at 9:59 am Reply to comment

A true firend is someone you could share ideas with. This type of friend also is someone that is into some of the same things as you are. A true friend is someone that has your back and could help you out. True friends could also help you out when moving somewhere or maybe loaning them items.

35 Kyle period 4 | Apr 10 at 9:59 am Reply to comment

True friends are much different than regular friends. A regular friend is someone who you know and can have a nice conversation with. A true friend is someone you can talk about everything with and know that they will be there for you when you really need them. True friends are people you spend alot of time with and you can relate to you. A true friend will never leave you. There are very few true friends that you can find in this world so when you do, you should hold on to that person forever.

36 Ryan P.4 | Apr 10 at 9:59 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a person that has your back. Someone that is always there for you. A person that never puts you down, and is always trying to get you in a good mood. A person that never askes for any money. A good friend never pressures you to do drugs or drink alchahol. Never askes you to lie for them or take a fall for them. A good friend never takes you down with them, for example if they get cought with drugs they dont say oh yeah i was with him last night, and you get in trouble.

37 Charlie period 4 | Apr 10 at 9:59 am Reply to comment

A friend is a person that you can relate to. someone you can play sports with, watch a movie with, go out to eat with. A friend is anyone you can have a good time with. But a true friend is much more. A true friend is all of the above plus much more. A true friend is someone you can talk to about anything, someone you can have a heart to heart conversation with, someone you know will look out for you, and you can look out for them. A true friend is someone who understands you, and you can understand them. That is what a true friend is!

38 Erik P4 | Apr 10 at 10:00 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who is always there for you. In good times and bad times a true friend will back you up NO MATTER WHAT. When you have a true friend you don’t have to think abput what they’ll ever think of you. If they really are a true friend they wouldn’t say anything bad about you or they could just keep it to themselves and not say it to your face. When you have a true friend you’ll know. Because they will always be nice to you and stand up for you when you need help.

39 Zach P4 | Apr 10 at 10:00 am Reply to comment

I think true friendship is hard to find. A true friend is somebody that will always have your back if you need help with anything. Also you would be willing to help them with anything. A true friend is somebody that does not push you to do anything bad and they respect your desicions. Also you do not push them to do anything bad and you respect their decisions. The thing that I like about my true friends is that i can always count on them to have my back. Just like I always have their back. That is what true friendship means to me.

40 Maggie Period 4 | Apr 10 at 10:02 am Reply to comment

A true firend is someone that is always threre for you no matter what happens. They will listen you and help you throug whatever happens and that you can tell anything to. To be a good friend you musy be trustworthy so that they know that they can tell you anything and not worry about you telling anyone elese. A true fired would never ask you to do anything bad or peer prusser you intop doing something that you don’t want to do, they let you make your own decisions and they should respect them. If i had to choose between haveing 2 good friend and a lot of not very close firend i would choose 2 good friend because if i had a lot of not very good forend i wouldn’t be able to trust all of them anf would end up with no one to talk to about the important thing.

41 Lisa Period 4 | Apr 10 at 10:03 am Reply to comment

Friendship is a very hard word to define for the simple reason that it means something different to every person who uses the word. To some people friends are a necessity and they couldn’t imagine going through life yet alone a day without their friends. To some people friendship is just a luxury and sense there is so much the world has to offer, it really isn’t a big deal if you don’t have friends. I personally believe that it is good to be involved with more than just hanging out with friends, but if you have all those things, and friends, I believe you will be much happier. The best kind of friend to have would be a true friend. Some one who you feel completely comfertable around and you have a lot in common with and you always have a good time with that person. One of the most important qualities of a true friend is for them to respect you and your decisions, even if its something they don’t agree with. However, There are some things that make it easier to have a true friend. Although inorder for someone to have a true friend, you don’t always have to see that person everyday, but it does make it a lot easier. One of my best friends, someone I consider a true friend, moved to Florida earlier this year. Although we still are and hopefully will continue to be friends for a lot longer. A true friend wouldn’t ask you to do something that would be bad for you because they would want nothing but the best to see you do well. Therefor, loyalty is required. The only difference between love and friend ship is love is stronger. And although not all friends are loves, all loves are friends.

42 Tyler p4 | Apr 10 at 10:03 am Reply to comment

A true friend is some who recpects you and trust you. They dont try to take advantage or talk behind your back. A true friend is someone you can talk to and they will listen. A true friend is someone that you will be friends forever. the differnce between a true friend and just a regular friend is a true friend cares about you and will be loyal. it is important to have true friends because true can help you if you have a major problem. To have have true friend you need to be a true friend.

43 Joey P.4 | Apr 10 at 10:05 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a friend that will always have your back no matter what. Also a true friend is also someone who will not make you do some thing that you dont want to such as drugs. Also a true friend is someone who will not make you dress the way they do or act the way they want you to in order to be friends. Also a true friend is somebody who you can talk to you when you need somebody to talk to. Last a true friend is someone who will help you in any situation.

44 Erich P4 | Apr 10 at 10:13 am Reply to comment

True frinds can be someone that can have fun with, hang out or just talk. Telling if that person is a true friend can be sometimes difficult. Giveing your friend a helping hand can mean alot to them or getting them threw the good and the bad times. You can makes friends with almost anyone. Poeple that have the same interests, likes and or dislikes can be esaier to become friends with. But its tricky to makes friends with the oppisite people than you. If a friend that asks you to do anything illegal or harmful to you or others is not a true friend. They just wont you to look stupid or get yourself in troble. Being loyal to a friend is important. It just counts on who you put your loyalty to. if you are loyal to the bad kind of poeple, you can turn into a bad person. Loyalty can be good, and it can be bad. If i had to choose between fun, casual pals or one or two true friends. I would choose the true friends of mine. Being in a group of fun pals can be fun. But with that many people, it can get out of control very quieckly.

45 justin giras | Apr 10 at 11:25 am Reply to comment

i think a true friend is some one that can tell you anything and will allways be there for you

46 duckman | Apr 10 at 11:26 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that you can go to for advice when you are feeling down. Someone you can visit when you have nothing else to do.

47 Joe | Apr 10 at 11:27 am Reply to comment

I believe you need to have close friends and a bunch of semi-distant friends. this because to have close friends is putting yourself out there to be hurt by them if they so choose. On the other hand they will stay with you longer then the semi-distant friends. Now the semi-distant friends they may not choose to be always with you or even tell you their darkest secrts but if you loose them it isnt as big of a deal. therefor you need both sets of friends to lead a ahppy life.

48 matt cox period 6 | Apr 10 at 11:27 am Reply to comment

I believe that true friendship is all about trust. You can tell them anything and they will help you with anything, no matter the risk. They are very hard to find, like a needle in a haystack, but when he or she is found it is awesome because this could be the person that you could rely on for the rest of your life. A true friend will come over, eat all your food, socialize with your mom, sleepover when not asked, and drewl on your pillow. But hey, who cares, this is the person you would die for.

49 mike p6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

A true friend is something different to everyone. Not everyone looks for the same thing in a friend. To be a true friend you need to help your friend if they need it, but only if they need it. If your friend wants you to something bad then they are not a true friend. But if you want your friend to do something bad your not being a true friend. you have to be able to tell your friends things, not everything thouhgh, somethings are for you alone. A friend should not be nosy and shouldnt need to know every detail about you. they just have to know your their friend.

50 greg P.6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

friendship is a special bond between two people that care and are there to stick up for eachother. when a friend does not try to put there effort or time into a friendship with somebody then they are truly not a friend. a true friend is there when you need them or when u need advice whenever you need it. a friend will be there for u threw thick and thin. freindship is very tough to figure out if u dont not really kno wht a true friend is. a true friend would never try to hurt your feelings.

51 Dan W. P 6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

A friend is someone who is loyal and hangs out with you. Although a friend can say something bad or does something wrong, it doesn’t mean that your not friends, just that you have a problem to fix which makes them better friends. If you have only a few friends, it probablly means that you are really good friends or have known them for a long time. If you have many friends, you might just hang out with some and almost never hang out with them all because you don’t have the time. Also if you have many friends, one small thing caun ruin the friendship.

52 Cortney P6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a person that you can trust and someone that will be there for you. This person is someone you can tell anything to and not have to worry if they are going to tell anyone. This person will be there for you when you are going through a rough time. This person is kind, caring and above all loyal which is the most important part of friendship. Now you also have to do your part of friendship and give back. That means to be loyal, caring and kind as well or else your friend isn’t going to want to be your friend anymore.

53 Cole B. | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

True friend are the ones that you will be able to count on in your time of need. They are the people in your life that will follow your ideas but are smart enough to stop you if they think that it could do harm to you, your friends, your family or your soceity. They are the people that are going to be loyal to you. These are the kinds of people that will do the right thing even if you might think that they are going against you even if it is going to help you. True friends are people that can be trusted and are loyal and the ones that people must hang on to because you can lose them as quickly as you became friends with them.

54 Taylor P-6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

I believe that it’s so important to have friends. A true friend accepts you for who you are. You want friends that you can trust and someone you can always lean on. Have a lot of acquaintances is fun, but having a couple best friends is even better. With friends, you can tell them anything. Friends understand you more because they know what you’re going through.

55 Anthony - Period 6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who will stick with you through “thick and thin.” They would be loyal to you and you would need to be loyal to him/her in return. A true friend is someone you can trust. You should not need to worry if him/her would tell others your secrets. Friendship is needed for happiness. Friendship is also needed for love. I do not believe that you can have love without having friendship first.

56 Trevor W. | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

True friends are people that will stay by your side no matter what. They will listen to what you have to say and will stick up for you when it is needed. They will alwayas have confidence in you, and will alwayas want to hang out with you when you want to hang out with them. They will never lie there way out of things and will never rat you out when times get rough. True friends are peolpe that you will still have for friends in your life when you are older.

57 Amy-Period 6 | Apr 10 at 11:28 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who you can be yourself around, and not worry at all. They are they for you in everyway possible. You can relate to them in a different way than any other person you know. But part of having a true friend is returning the favor. As good as they are to you, you have to be back. Having a true friend isnt a one person part, it takes two.

58 Dan | Apr 10 at 11:29 am Reply to comment

A true friend is a friend you can trust and count on, someone who will always be there for you when you need them the most. You can tell if someone is a true friend or not by the way they treat you. If they treat you with respect and kindness they are a true friend. If they never want to help you or hang out or if they hurt your feelings they are not a true friend.

59 Alyssia Period 6 | Apr 10 at 11:29 am Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that is always there for you. You can tell them anything and everything. They are there for the good and bad times. When you need help they are there. They are loyal, funny, and caring. A true friend helps you make the right choices in life. They don’t care how you dress or if you have a big house, they are friends with you becasue of who you are. They respect and trust you. They listen to you. Also they will always have your back no matter what. A true friend is hard to find. But they are out there.

60 Kaitlin-Period 6 | Apr 10 at 11:30 am Reply to comment

A true friend is one that you can just be yourself around and there not going to care what you wear, or what you look like they just like you, for you. They won’t ever leave you when life gets hard, you can tell them your darkest secret trusting that they won’t tell anyone. And you can do like wise with them.

61 Brian-Per 6 | Apr 10 at 11:30 am Reply to comment

A true friend to me is someone who will stick up for me and will have my back even in the hardest of times. Also they do what is right for me even if it could ruin our friendship. One that is trust full, honest, and respects the kind of person i am. Also a true friend is someone you wants to be my friend because of my personalitie not because of what i got. I beileve that ypu must have a friendship to be able to have love because you have to get to know him/her and have a trust for them to be able to have love

62 MATT ARQUETTE | Apr 10 at 11:32 am Reply to comment

A true friend is something that is hard to find.It is someone that you can trust and you feel good hanging around that person. The way to figure out if a friend is a true friend they won’t stab you in the back and will always be honest with you. Some duties I have to my friends are being honest and truthful person and being there in case they need me. If they have a problem I will try to help them out with it. I would rather have a couple of close really good friends instead of a bunch of friends because you can’t always count on all of those friends, but having close friends that you can count on would be much better because you could trust them more and expect good things from them.

63 Emery P.6 | Apr 10 at 11:33 am Reply to comment

A True friend is someone you can trust. Someone you love to be around. If you can’t trust someone they aren’t a true friend. Trust is the thing you need most in a friendship. My best friends are my friends because they have all my trust, and we always have fun together. True friends would do whats best for you. In life you only need a few very close friends to get you by. It’s always nice to have alot of friends but also a few VERY close one are always good. Because they know everything about you and can help you when your down. They can make you happy at the worst times just cause it’s there job.

64 James p.7 | Apr 10 at 12:13 pm Reply to comment

i think a true friend is a person that can help you durning life,they dont want to hurt you or take you down if they get in trouble. They dont use you for anything or try to hurt you in anyway. A true friend is the person that is the closes to and are trying to stare you down the right path. If they aren’t a true friend the wont do anything of these things and you have to be smart enough to firgure that out. You can have more than one true friend, but always remember that there is people that try to take advantage of you soo know who your true friends are

65 Samuel P7 | Apr 10 at 12:14 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who you can trust. A trustful friend is someone who you have known for a couple of years and you tel eachother secrets and all. A friend who askes you to steal something is not your real friend. You have to decide who your real friend truly is. My friends are my friends because we have common interests like playing hockey and playing video games together. Their my friends because their smart and we have known eachother for a long time. One of my old friends, Mike Tuberdike, used to be my friend but he stopped liking me all of a sudden. He wasn’t a true friend.

66 Alex P7 | Apr 10 at 12:14 pm Reply to comment

People have many diffrenet perspectives on what is a true friend. Usually a true friend is someone that is behind you one hundred percent. They would belive in the things that you belive in you would do the same for them. Also, they would be there for you when you are going threw tough times. They would give you support and they would help you if you had any questions. Also a true friend will do what is right and not try to get into to much trouble.

67 tyler p7 | Apr 10 at 12:15 pm Reply to comment

Friendship is when you and a close person have a special bond that no one else has. People who use you and boss you around are not good friends at all they just slow you down in life. Friends dont stab you in the back also friends dont lie to get out of things.friends are people who understand you and not just pretend to be or just to say something that you just want to here. their are differences of people that are youre friends and people that just say that their your friend just to get things from you.Friends make you put a (= on youre face.ahhahh

68 shauna p7 | Apr 10 at 12:15 pm Reply to comment

a true freind is a freind that supports you through all the hard times and is always there for you. a true freind does not put you in a bad situation or if you are in one will help you get through it. a freind is supposed to be true and loyal to youn as you are to them.a true freind doesnt do something and blame it on you when you had no part of it but if you do you and that frwind should stick together. i think that a true freind shoyuld be someone you would trust with anything you tell them and wont tell anyone. if you are in a bad situation and your freind knows they should help you even though they promised not to tell and just6 tell someone what is wrong to help you through that.your true freind should be with you through anything and help you.

69 josh p7 | Apr 10 at 12:15 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone whio will never let you down and will always want to help you with your problems no matter the situation, even if helping you requirest them to embares themselvs. True friends could be considered your closest or bestfriends because your closest or bestfriends are considered to be your closest friends or youir true friends.

70 josh p7 | Apr 10 at 12:16 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone whio will never let you down and will always want to help you with your problems no matter the situation, even if helping you requirest them to embares themselvs. True friends could be considered your closest or bestfriends because your closest or bestfriends are considered to be your closest friends or youir true friends.

71 Nate p7 | Apr 10 at 12:16 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is a person that is thier for you in your time of need, happiness and other circumstances.They would never blow you off. A true friend does not have to have the same lies and dislikes as you but sometimes they do.A true friend would stand up for you when your beingn put down as you would for them.

72 Sarah p.7 | Apr 10 at 12:17 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is some one you can talk to and have fun with. A true friend wont make you do anything you dont want to, and will all ways be there for you when ever you need them. With good times and bad times a friend will be there for you know matter what. Having many friends is great but theres always that one friend that you tell him/her everything, and that my friend is called a best friand. But more importantly a true friend.

73 Mark P.7 | Apr 10 at 12:17 pm Reply to comment

Friendship is a form of love. A true friend wants the best for you, and will stick around you through thick and thin. A true friend would never make you go down the wrong path, if anything they are the ones that keep you on the right one. A true friendship does not form over night, but they can end as fast as they come. Once it is gone you find out what you are missing. Finally friends and family are the most important things in life everyone always tell you and that is true, happiness is caused by the love of the people around you.

74 Cory P.7 | Apr 10 at 12:19 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone who will do what they can to help you out and be there for you when you need them. They will not judge you and will accept you for who you are, not who you can become. You can talk to your true friend and tell them anything. True friends don’t make fun of you when you are emberassed. they try to cover the mess and stop anyone else from laughing. A true friend is someone who understands you and who tells you what is best for you. Sometimes, they might be wrong, but they still tried, and thats what matters.

75 Bryan Kupiec P:7 | Apr 10 at 12:19 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone you can trust and rely on to be there for you. they will not force you to do something you dont want to do or use you. True friends also must say somthing if his or her friend is having any problems even if it means you must do something that you dont want to do. you must also never duck friend just because you think he or she is a nerd or geek or something like that. friends should also be trustworthy.

76 Charlie p7 | Apr 10 at 12:24 pm Reply to comment

Friendship is not just a relationship its a state of mind,Friendship is also a sense of security this sence is found within this relationship. A friendship is not something that takes place within a day or two it is a long lasting bond that is constantly tested within the relationship. This is why friendships are very hard to come by especally good friendships.but when you do have a good frienship with someone it is a feeling that you never want to go away sometimes this friendship takes a hard hit with all the other factors that can affect the friendship.But this is just another test to see if this friendship si for real if its not then the freindship will not last and then you know that you were never really friends in the first place. The definition of friendship is “the state of being freinds” I think that this sums up friendship very nicely but i think that they nee to add something this state of being freinds has no end unless the people make it end. Frienship will go on forever but the poeple in this friendship are the ones that can end it. Poeple say that thier freinds ended the friedship but if we take a look at what happend we will see that we were the ones that made it end. If we can realize that then we can find the true meaning of frienship.

77 nick p9 | Apr 10 at 1:40 pm Reply to comment

true freindship does not come across many times in the course of a liftime. most of the time people only hear what they wanna hear. if u love writing and someone tells you you suck, you do no want to hear that. you can not always be honest with freinds but having a true freind telling the true should rarely be a problem

78 Glenn peiod 9 | Apr 10 at 1:42 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is a person that will never put you down. You hang out with that person, talk to them all the time, and are always with them. It is tough to get a true friend because you never know who they are because you have so many but you normally have an idea of who they are.

79 Ryan Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:43 pm Reply to comment

True friends are people that will help you when ever you need it and help steer you the right way. Not many cann’t find true friends instead they have a bunch of “school friends”. These friends are just people that you know somethings about. You can never trust a “school friend” because you don’t know enough about them and you more than likley you have never hung out with them except in school. A true friend is someone you can trust and you know that they have youer back. All you have to do is trust them back and make sure you hang out with them when ever possible.

80 Jacob Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:44 pm Reply to comment

In my opinion a true friend is someone who you can depend on to not talk behind your back. Also a true frind is someone who stands by you through thick and thin. A best friend is someone who you can tell your deepest darkest secrets to and not worry if he or she tells someone. I think a best friend can tell if you are in a bad or good mood.

81 Nick period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:44 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that will always be by your side no matter what happens. A true friend is a person who never talks about you behind your back. Friendship is not a burden or something that is aquired of someoune it’s a gift from one person to another. It’s one of the greatest feelings you can have with another person next to love. A true friend is someone you can trust.

82 Luke Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:45 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is one friend who you can trust and you can tell them anything. They will be there for you if you need them. They are people you like to hang around with a lot. They always have your back. You can have a lot of friends that you just like to hang around with but are not true friends. Atrue friend is hard to find and if you do have one you are pretty lucky. A true friend is really nice to have.

83 Bre Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:46 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that can be there for you at any time. Friendship is something that is hard to find, but everyone has friendship in their lives and everyday. It’s hard to tell if someone is a true friend, because there are fake friends. If you have a true friend you can tell if something goes wrong in your life and they are there for you. They also won’t get mad at you about stupid mistakes you made in your life. A true friend can make you happy even after something life-altering like death in the family. Friendship is very necessary in life because friendship makes you happy and they are comfort you and you need someone to talk to anything about. As a dutie for being a friend, you must always be loyal and truthful, even if the truth hurts. If I had to choose between having a lot of friends that may not be as close and a couple of friends that are, I would most definitley choose having a couple of friends that are trustworthy. A friend should have your back and they shouldn’t pressure you into doing something that you are no comfortable with or something that you think is dangerous. Friends don’t let friends do stupid things.

84 Corrine Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:47 pm Reply to comment

True friends are hard to find. They’re the people who are always there for you, would never hurt or betray you, and you know you could count on. The differences between a true and non-true friends are their actions. A non-true friend might say or do hurtful things or just use you. They won’t be reliable when you need it and they always choose you last. As friends we have to be honest, helpful, and kind. Loyalty is not required for friendship but without it the friendship isn’t strong at all. I believe true friends are rare so you need to treat them with the respect they deserve and try to keep them for as long as you can.

85 Mitchell Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:47 pm Reply to comment

ANYONE can be a friend to you, but only YOU know your TRUE friends. it takes more than just words to be a friend, you really have to get to know the person if you want to be a true friend. almost everyone can have friends, its easy, but to keep them its like a seed, you have to grow with time and care for it, for it to bloom into a great friendship. A great frined is someone who you can usually connect with, its usually a friend from a long time ago like kindergarten or even before, and some one who has the same intrests as you, they always hang around and theyre hard to get rid of, and they get on your nerves, but you can ALWAYS trust them with what they do.

86 Molly Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:47 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is a person who cares for you, even when you do stupid things. True friends know how to forgive, they are understanding, and always are there for you through thick and thin. You know when someone is not a true friend when they do things behind your back, when they’re only friends with you when theres no one cooler is around. If you love someone, it is impossible to do so without being amazing friends, thats why when people date they call it “girl friend” and “boy friend”. Your true love usually is your best friend, someone you can trust and someone that makes you happy, those are qualities of real friends. The most important thing to know is that chosing friends is a very delicate procedure and if you chose the wrong people you may end up in trouble or with your feelings hurt.

87 Rachel Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:47 pm Reply to comment

Friendship is a great thing and usually you have one true friend out of the friendship of many people. A true friend is someone that likes you for you and accepts your flaws. They also have your back when you do something wrong and tell you how top fix the problem. They can be honest with you when you want them to and tell you anything to make you feel better when you are feeling sad. You have that brotherly or sisterly love for them and you always have their back. I stand by the rules with my friends and they stand by them with me.

88 Nick per 9 | Apr 10 at 1:47 pm Reply to comment

Loyalty to a friend is not always a good thing is some cases. Sometimes it is totally necessary for someone to always tell the truth to your best friend. But when you know a secret about your best friend that might jepordize your friendship, you just have to judge wheather or not it is escential to tell him or her. One of being a true friends responsibilities is to make the right choice. And in doing that, that is showing that you really care for your friend.

89 amanda p9 | Apr 10 at 1:48 pm Reply to comment

a true friend is someone who is there for you, someone you can trust. i have to be understanding and nice to my friends. my friends are my friends because i can have fun with them. a true friend might ask you to do something that is harmful but will respect your decision. loyalty is required for friendship because without it your not really friends. loyalty is not always a good thing because if being loyal to them gets in the way of the right thing its not good. i would rather have one or two true friends than a lot of friends, because i would actually have people there for me. love and friendship are different. love is a more passionate feeling. i don’t think you could be in love with a true friend. to be in love you need to be friends with them too and they should have friend like qualities. friendship is important for happiness because it makes you feel good that your not alone. they can bring you up when your down.

90 Megan Period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:50 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is someone that is always there for you. You know if someone is a true friend by them trusting you. the duties we have as a friend is to be there for them no matter what. My friends are my friends because they make me laugh and we have fun, like hang out. What i like about having friends is that they will do any and everything for you. A true friend would never them there other friends hurt or harm themselves. Loyalty is part of being a true friend.

91 TJ p9 | Apr 10 at 1:50 pm Reply to comment

a true friend is a person who you can trust. and someone you can go to for help about your life.also a true friend is someone you can hang out with.and sometimes you and your friend can get in fights. But then you get back being friends.

92 caitlin period 9 | Apr 10 at 1:50 pm Reply to comment

a true friend is someone that will always be there for you, and you help through the times that you need them there, and give you advice. you know when someone is a true friend because they will always be on your side and you can trust them with whatever you say. my closest friend is my best friend because we get along very well, and dont argue. i know i can trust her with any thing i say to her. i appreciate them because i think its a challenge to be a good friend because you cant go around talking about them, and you need to spend time with them and i really appriciate her. i dont think a true friend would ask you to do something harmful, because if they loved you they would want you by their side and if you do something harmful, something bad could happen to you. also if it was harmful to you, i dont think that they would do it either. yes, loyalty is required to a friendship, and it plays a big role because you need to trust eachother. i would pick two best friends, and i say that because thats what i have, and i absoutely love it. we are always togetjer. if you have just a bunch of casual friends you dont know what you can and cannot tell them. the difference between friendship and love is that love is something everybody wants and searches for,and you want to be with them constantly. a friendship is someone you can talk to and have fun with. i dont think you can be in love with someone that is not a true friend because before you date someone, you get to know eachother and start to become friends, and thats when you realize if you want more than a friend and you are friends before you date. friendship is really important for hapiness because you need somone in your life that wont juge you, and so you won’t be lonely.

93 James Per. 9 | Apr 10 at 1:52 pm Reply to comment

A true friend is somebody that you can trust, and somebody that always has your back. Somebody that uses you as a friend, because they like your sister is not an example of a true friend. You know if somebody is a true friend when they get new friends and they are still friends with you. People that arn’t true friends will get new friends and then never want anything to do with there old friends.

94 Jeremy per.9 | Apr 10 at 1:54 pm Reply to comment

Friendship can be many things, it all depends on what you think of a friend. A friend can be someone that you trust, or it can be something simple like considering someone a friend because you two just get along when you are together. Sometimes it can be more than friendship, it could be love, where two people have a strong relationship between each other. Even though it can be easy to make friends, sadly friendship can be easily destroyed by the stupidest of reasons. Like getting into a fight. So the overall idea is that friendship can be complex.

95 Austin Per. 9 | Apr 10 at 1:54 pm Reply to comment

I think that a true friend is when you have a friend who you are really close with and they are always truthful to you. I also think that for someone to be your true friend you both have to trust each other and respect each other. A true friend will never talk behind your back and when things are going bad for you they will be there for you and they will always try to encourage you to do something and they won’t discourage you. True friends are definitely rare during one’s lifetime so if you have an argument with that person you should try and resolve the problem because it will be better in the long run and you never want to lose a true friend.

96 Mrs. Chaves | Apr 10 at 4:50 pm Reply to comment

As a 50 something daughter, sister, wife, mother, teacher and friend, my life is full of friendships. In fact, my sister?s friendship with Dr. Ryan first brought The Question and Lancaster High School together.

I believe one part of being a true friend is to ?go to the funeral home?. The article from NPR?s All Things Considered by Dierdra Sullivan titled ?Always Go to the Funeral?(http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=4785079) says it better than I could. For me supporting someone in grief requires true friendship. The happy times of proms, parties, weddings, babies, cottages and birthdays come easily. Sharing your heart in sadness requires commitment. Not knowing what to say, what to wear, how to act, whether you will cry, how devastated your friend will be, what strangers you may meet, or what memories of your own sad times will surface are faced when you attend. But your true friends will face it all and be there.

Thank you Dr. Ryan and Mrs. Measer for giving us the opportunity to philosophize.

97 melody | Apr 11 at 11:37 am Reply to comment

friendship is just as important as your ture love.when you meet a person who is nice kind , respectful and have alot in commen you aqurie a thing called friendship. a friend has to be loyal.my friends are my friends who care about me and comfort me when i went thourgh bad times.and if my friends are doing something bad and harmful to others i would comfront them for there own safty.normaly i only would have a few true friends because they are loyle to me.if you love someone you care soooooooooooo much about them if you had a friend you would care but not so much.you should always be happy in a friendship.

98 wade | Apr 11 at 1:58 pm Reply to comment

a friend is someone you choose to be there for no matter what happens.

99 aya/apr 29 at 10:00 pm | May 6 at 2:47 pm Reply to comment

i think a true friend is someone who always there for you someone understand how you are feeling without even having to ask .

100 na ,sane | Jul 8 at 12:20 am Reply to comment

i think a true friend is some 1 thats tells the truth 2 u and will alwayz be there 4 u and never give hope on u and u can tell the person every thing and they speak there mind to u and u do the same with them and i think a true friend is they dont talk bout u and alwayz stick up 4 u when some 1 says some thing bout u and a true friend is they can tell u ther opipion bout u or any body eles thatz wat i THINK

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